tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6167989506829384273.post7941005781911971142..comments2018-07-30T19:11:46.011-07:00Comments on STRONG LOLA: ...BOXES...MChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16959161310802797907noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6167989506829384273.post-64401947487460767312012-05-01T21:23:16.265-07:002012-05-01T21:23:16.265-07:00This spins me out Marsha really it does. I don...This spins me out Marsha really it does. I don't know if it is something that happens at a certain age for some people yet every single post you have written i can utterly relate to and truly say i'm going through the same thought process and it is driving me wee crazy. I haven't had the greatest life through high school and growing up, i've had many trust issues with friends who i've given to and i've never received and to be honest i'm heart broken. I'm tough on myself and sometime i just need to know if someone else is going through it and what they do to get through it.<br /><br />I'm a personal trainer, i give, love and give some more and I ask myself the same question where on earth is that one person to help me when i need it. The answer is 'it's me' i'm it! it is me that needs to be at peace if that's the word, to love myself, go out and do things that fulfil my happiness. As you said it can be done, it might take a week or a month may be more to work it out but i will get there.<br /><br />Thank you for your posts they are so well written and you can tell they are from the heart.<br /><br />Thank you again.Simpsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07929225291802057272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6167989506829384273.post-52012637979403287912012-04-27T12:44:00.545-07:002012-04-27T12:44:00.545-07:00you can do it.you can do it.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02481292365105789785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6167989506829384273.post-40783752975661729232012-04-23T16:44:12.287-07:002012-04-23T16:44:12.287-07:00Marsha --
No need to release this reply to your p...Marsha --<br /><br />No need to release this reply to your post; it is likely very personal -- for both you and me. But nonetheless, you make the final decision. Several blog posts ago -- either here or on your other blogspot, I commented that you and I seem to be in parallel universes. We seemingly have very similar thoughts, lives, joy and pain. <br /><br />I will tell you, often times, even in your inspirational posts, I do see a sadness and grief in you. Where that derives from? I don't know because I don't know you however today's sadness touches me in a way because I have been there. <br /><br />Strength lies in knowing what is good for you - and while not wanting to address it -- doing so no matter how hard and painful it is. Fear of being lonely. Fear of having to defend your position. Fear of being rejected first. The reality of having to confront people and then allowing them to have their rebuttal is all very tough stuff. That said, allowing yourself NOT to have to face their words is likely being kinder to yourself and being stronger than you realize.<br /><br />Knowing when to say 'when' and walking away or retracting some of the latitude may be difficult, but in the end, you are bound to have more self love and self respect. <br /><br />You see, we allow these people to do this to us. We almost bring it on ourselves. For many of us, it is that we don't think we are truly good enough or deserve someone to be as good to us as we are to them. Sometimes, we are just too 'strong' thinking we don't need them as much as they need us. Sometimes, our fools' pride allows us to believe we can buck up and not need someone as much as we 'feel' in that moment we are disappointed by them. Sometimes, we allow ourselves to believe we are the bigger, better person for not worrying about keeping score. And you know, it is not about keeping score really, but investing in something that does not offer a rate of return, is self destructive.<br /><br />Marsha - you do so much for so many of 'us' that you don't even know -- I can only imagine what you do for those in your every day (real) life. Why is it that you don't believe you are deserving? And, you are hurting because you need to move on from these people but that is far less painful and disappointing than knowing when you need them, they are not there. Hard to see that when you are stuck in the middle of the vicious cycle.<br /><br /><br />You are strong enough to get through this and you are smart enough to know when the time is right to do so. Be kind enough to yourself to know you deserve far better than you are allowing yourself to have. <br /><br />I send you tons of support and good vibes as you embark on your 'break ups' and 'cleaning house'. It truly does feel good when all is said and done. These folks don't mean to hurt you and quite honestly, I still believe we have people that float in and out of our lives to teach us valuable lessons, or allow us to right past wrongs in the face of paying it forward. Focus on releasing those you need to and remembering you are now making space for more fulfilling and satisfying relationships......and when we open the hand to set something free, our hands (and hearts) are then open and available to someone who has been waiting there all along; just looking for that vacancy.<br /><br />Good luck! And, I hope your tears are gone for a long time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6167989506829384273.post-15375158936719765392012-04-23T15:21:16.295-07:002012-04-23T15:21:16.295-07:00Really needed to read this today as I have been fe...Really needed to read this today as I have been feeling the exact same way! Thank you!!IFAbbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05914651361433739590noreply@blogger.com